“I work hard, I get good contracts, but I never achieve my financial goals!”
You do everything right to achieve success, but somehow the end result is never quite what you had hoped for. Despite superhuman efforts, following strategies and procedures, and following your best intentions, you are often disappointed, and rarely satisfied.
Though common and frustrating, luckily, it is also completely reversible.
After numerous disappointments, you finally tell yourself that you just do not deserve more. But you do. And you can get exactly what you want. It’s all about tackling your mental hygiene, which means developing healthy thoughts and paradigms that propel your assertiveness and support your ambitions.
Basically, the image you have of yourself comes from the inner story you have been telling yourself and holding on to, since childhood. Wounds buried deep in your psyche— we all have them—affect what you believe about yourself. And like a mainframe server that is not so user-friendly, we use our minds, without clear understanding or instructions, to feed deep-seeded beliefs about ourselves, and about others. These beliefs become a determining factor in our lives.
Understanding, controlling, and realigning everything, allows you to eliminate thoughts and behaviours that undermine your success, so you can enjoy the benefits of a healthy, powerful, and efficient mindset.
In business, and in life, pretending is useless.
You can hide your weaknesses for a while but eventually, self-sabotaging behaviour and unhealthy self-management symptoms will resurface:
- Missing objectives for no apparent reason
- Feeling self-doubt, discouragement, and frustration
- Fomenting tense relationships and blaming others
- Losing the desire to innovate
While most managers and entrepreneurs want to control their decisions and destinies, it is rarely the case. Eventually, weaknesses are felt, people are destabilized, their entourage worries, and changes are necessary. Unfortunately, most of the time, symptoms are addressed, without ever looking for the root cause. Cycles are thus repeated, and the desired improvements are short-lived.
While intentions are good, this happens frequently. On the surface, most businesses are comfortable with surface change. Improvisation, suppression, and concealment are commonly accepted.
On the one hand, managers and decision makers do not feel threatened and, on the other, nobody needs to perform deep self-evaluation to analyze and understand their beliefs, emotions, choices, and skills. In the short term, good results can be obtained with poor methods but eventually, this approach runs out of steam and shows its inefficiencies.